Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago · 2 min. reading time · ~10 ·

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What do we define as normal

What do we define as normal

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My grandmother once shot my father’s eye out from 500 feet. Naturally, my father would tell you it was a fragment that ricocheted off something or other while he was doing something valiant; that’s what caused the loss of his eye. He would never admit to being shot, from that distance, from a woman; from a tiny black-clad veiled woman with a shotgun from her porch to the property line. She didn’t like Catholics apparently, which was rich given that she was a two-third Blackfoot Indian who survived her white husband by 30 years at the time. Her husband may once have been Protestant, but the sole time she darkened a church door was to kick his sheet-wrapped body off her wagon-bed onto their steps after a very brave preacher dared to send a message with the sheriff appealing to her to hand him over (she’d kept him cold in the basement where he had actually died of natural old age) for a ‘proper’ funeral. That would turn out to be her one act of loving kindness to a man that had stole her anyhoo.

Gotta say, that's both true and untrue - that actual details are really irrelevant. Like most of life as we see it, it's a perspective. So what's the difference between truth and perspective? Not one helluva lot, so far as I can see. Even if 90% of the above is true, how pivotal is the other 10%? Most us thirty-plus don't worry about this too's forgivable. Or, it's a story.

Don't matter. What I'm really trying to say is (1) I'm new here. and (2) I am leery of what I read. Sure I write, sure I have some brain-pops of my own. But I am concerned. Maybe overly cautious of other's motives. I need to say IMMEDIATELY that I am equally cautious of my own. Why? Because I 'suspect' I'm not like most of you - either driven to (oh so beautifully) share because you are behove to open up, or because you're actually sane and feel in control of your faculties, life, loves and work. I'm none, but I'm a survivor. One doesn't necessitate the other.

I suppose what I'm getting at (how would I know?) is that love - something I read on a popular post - Ani Anali -  is not a 'choice', it's a verification. Love is courage, un-applauded, unseen, unrequited. It's rather unconscious. I would to have love in a way that 'un-gimped' others have, but I don't. Doesn't stop me from loving.

I wouldn't mind being Ali - to know what he knows, to see through such clear eyes, to have his intelligence. But that ain't me. Don't get me wrong: we need people like him - like you. I guess we need less like me...where's the fun in that?

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Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #21

I'm touched Deb Lange's support!

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #20

Thank you so much John! I'm not getting notifications on my email, so didn't know they were here!

John White, MBA

5 years ago #19

Lisa Vanderburg: Nice post. beBee has tweeted it out on several of our Twitter profiles. We hope it brings in some more bees (aka readers!)

Ali Anani

5 years ago #18

#28 Hi Lisa Vanderburg. I wonder if you have got your "hammer & chisel, calculator, sexton" ready!

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #17

Yay....I'm home then @Pascal Derrien!!

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #16

Ah yes, my dear Ali Anani. But you know to answer just ONE of your thoughts would require me to get out my hammer & chisel, calculator, sexton, and every philosophical tome I could lay my hands on :)

Ali Anani

5 years ago #15

Now, with your gratifying responses dear Lisa Vanderburg you have contradicted yourself in a beautiful way. You wrote " wouldn't mind being Ali - to know what he knows, to see through such clear eyes, to have his intelligence". Now, I know more than before how intelligent you are.

Pascal Derrien

5 years ago #14

I think many of us have joined the perfect imperfections tribe I would say the more the merrier....:-)

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #13

Where ARE my manners Deb Helfrich?? If it weren't for you, I wouldn't even BE here!! Thank you most humbly! As to your question 'if love falls in the wood, unexchanged, does it really exist?' There's two answers: Yes, because of the individuals choice to love. Or: No, because you convinced yourself of a lie. It happens......

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #12

#4 @Peter van Doorn, I am touched and more than grateful; you make me feel 'at home'.

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #11

@Karen Anne Kramer - what a puddin! Thankyou!!

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #10

Thank you so much @Lisa Gallagher!

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #9

I 'fes up Steve Brady. She was really my great-grandmother - 'little granny'. My real grandmother (her daughter) wasn't nearly so colorful..just jumped fences at 70 and stole bananas off her neighbors trees :)

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #8

True @Brian McKenzie! It could have been an arrow instead of a rifle, but I suspect God can tell the true believers from those just practising, in which case, it may be a gesture of love? :)

Lisa Vanderburg

5 years ago #7

I am floored at the responses! And because I have no idea what all these buttons mean, I just went ahead and pressed them all :) I think this may go to Deb, but to all here, I am touched by your response - truly! Thank you so much for your kindness!

Lisa Gallagher

5 years ago #6

Lisa Vanderburg, I loved this! I think so many of us found truths in what you wrote. I also like your raw honesty!

Ali Anani

5 years ago #5

Yes, and even if it was the only free mind Peter van Doorn. I just wanted to refer to the effect of internet shifting distribution more towards niche mind and products.

Gert Scholtz

5 years ago #4

Lisa Vanderburg I find myself feeling good after reading it. And I also don't know why.

Ali Anani

5 years ago #3

Brave hearts who don't follow the majority are few and you are one of the rare gems, LisaLisa Vanderburg

Ali Anani

5 years ago #2

Thanks to you Lisa Vanderburg to write on Debs as well. I thank you Lisa for mentioning me and I am proud. Thanks to Deb too for tagging my correct name. Thanks to my friend Peter van Doorn for mentioning me. I shall respond in a future buzz soon, but for now I say we progressively are moving away from normal distribution to long-tail distribution and the niche people are getting less. So, to be able to stand up away from the crowd is even getting harder.

Kevin Pashuk

5 years ago #1

Loved the opening story. Genuinely genuine post here Lisa. Keep it that way for your future posts.

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